Leslie Josel is an ADHD-academic and parenting coach. When her son was first diagnosed with ADHD, Leslie founded Order Out of Chaos with a mission to help parents guide their students to success in learning and in life Leslie is an award-winning author of 3 books including her recent book, “How to Do it Now Because it’s Not Going Away”. She is a weekly columnist for ADDtitude, a premier magazine for ADHD and LD and an international speaker, named by Global Gurus as one of the top 20 Time Management experts in the world.
Do your kids wait until the night before to do their homework or wait to start a project until the day before the due date? Leslie says “Everyone procrastinates. All the kids are doing it! So take some comfort in the fact that you’re not alone.” One study found that over 80 percent of high school and college and students delay doing homework and assignments until the last minute.
Procrastination has a negative effect on students’ schoolwork and grades. Kids experience more frustration, guilt, stress and make poor quality and rushed decisions. Procrastination can develop into a bad habit that builds resentment and sabotages success – the effects of which can be more acute with high school students, who have an increased workload.
Kids don’t procrastinate because they are lazy, but instead due to deeper issues of fear and difficulty. Your kids may feel the task is too hard or too vague, or might be afraid of failing. Subconsciously, we believe that time will give way to progress over fear. Sadly, it is the opposite – the longer we defer action, the more apprehensive we become, the lower our self-confidence. For your kids, this can start a downward cycle at a time when marks count.
This is frustrating for parents who may feel it is easy to avoid these consequences. We’ve often heard ourselves tell our kids something like, “If you had just started your homework when you got home, you’d be finished already… “. We can lecture our kids on the bad decisions that got them into this mess, but this approach is rarely constructive.
Leslie Josel helps us understand the deeper issues on why our children procrastinate, so you can help them unlearn this behaviour and set them up for success in life and work. In her book “How to Do It Now”, she provides practical advice, tips & tools to teach students how to become more efficient. Her techniques will let your children get stuff done, so your life is easier and you can free up more time for yourself.
Resources & Links
Book: How To Do It Now…Because It’s Not Going Away
Weekly Column: Dear ADHD Family Coach
Free first chapter of the book
Video message from Leslie
TABLE OF CONTENTS for Leslie’s Book
How to Do It Now…Because It’s Not Going Away
1. “I Have Time”: Time Management
2. “It’s Not Due Till Friday”: Homework
3. “I Read Over My Notes”: Study Skills
4. “I Don’t Need To Write It Down”: Planning
5. “I’ll Remember”: Routines and Rituals
6. “I Know Where Everything Is”: Organizing
7. “Five More Minutes”: Distractions
8. “I’m Not In The Mood”: Motivation
9. Ten Questions to Overcome Procrastination Pushback