Are you are a parent of a Tween or a Teen? If so, your child is either headed for middle school, in middle school or entering high school. These are transformative years, where your kids seek privacy and more independence. They will make mistakes – some will navigate them seamlessly and others will struggle. Tweens are faced with several challenges. They are figuring out who they are, managing more academic responsibilities, peer pressures and entering into the world of social media. Additionally, there are romantic interests, changing bodies and managing to cope with issues that feel like really big problems at this age. Michelle outlines what kind of talks for teens are important, and inevitably help them navigate their coming of age.
Michelle Icard is a member of the TODAY Show parenting team and NBC News Learn. Michelle’s work has been featured in the Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, The Christian Science Monitor, Redbook, Time, and People. Her leadership curriculum for middle schoolers (Athena’s Path and Hero’s Pursuit) have been implemented at schools across the U.S. Her summer camp curriculum is offered at more than 20 camps each summer. Currently, Michelle lives with her family in Charlotte, North Carolina.
Michelle says “Trying to convince a middle schooler to listen to you can seem like a herculean task. Keeping kids safe and prepared is all about having the right conversations at the right time.” From a brain development and emotional readiness perspective, there’s no better time.
In her book Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen, Michelle Icard addresses an array of topics including friendship, sexuality, impulsivity and technology as well as unexpected conversations about creativity, hygiene, money, privilege, and contributing to the family. To best approach these essential talks, she provides a simple, family-tested formula that she calls the BRIEF Model. She outlines what keeps your kids engaged and what annoys them. In addition to the best time to have these conversations and how to leave them wanting more.
In this episode, Michelle Icard gives you some of the tools on how to have these important talks for teens and steer clear of landmines that shut down the conversation.
Resources & Links
Michelle Icard Books
FB Private Group: Join Less Stressed Middle School Parents
Parenting Course: Fourteen Talks by Age 14
TODAY Parenting: Posts by Michelle Icard